The Perimenopause Husband
Perimenopause Exhaustion: The Tired Sleep Doesn't Fix
She'd say, I'm tired. And I'd hear tired the way I get tired. Big week, bad night, needs a sleep in. So I'd hand her the fix. Get an early night.
Except bedtime wasn't rest for her. Awake at two or three, lying there, and she'd get anxious before she even got into bed, because she knew what was coming. When she did sleep, she woke up tired. Never rested tired. Then straight into the same list she'd always run, with less of her to go around.
And when she said she was tired, I'd say, yeah, I'm tired too. It was true. But every time, I looked at her tired and put mine right next to it.
My tired, sleep fixes. Hers, sleep couldn't fix. That's what this one's about. Her tired, and my tired.
In our house this was Overcast. Flat, tired, going through the motions. Not angry, just dimmed. Two of the big hormones in perimenopause are oestrogen and progesterone. Progesterone is the calming one, it helps her settle and sleep. Oestrogen helps keep her mood level and her temperature steady. They rise and fall with no warning, and over time they drop, so the sleep gets lighter and more broken. If it doesn't lift, or anything about it worries either of you, see a doctor or a specialist in this field, and go with her if she wants you there.
Two of the tools are in the episode. One for when she says she's tired. One for you, about where your tired goes.
Chapters
- 0:00 Intro
- 0:33 Her Tired
- 2:28 Swap The Fix For A Question
- 3:13 My Tired
- 3:45 Here's Where It's A Two Way Street
- 5:44 Never Put Your Tired Next To Hers
- 6:23 Outro
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